More Quotes from the Common Bowl

Beloved community is formed not by the eradication of difference but by its affirmation, by each of us claiming the identities and cultural legacies that shape who we are and how we live in the world.
~bell hooks 

Unconditional love is not so much about how we receive and endure each other, as it is about the deep vow to never, under any condition, stop bringing the flawed truth of who we are to each other. 
~Mark Nepo 

What do we live for if it is not to make life less difficult for each other?
~George Eliot 

We must remember to go slow. It’s the secret so rarely mentioned. Simply put, relationships are hard to build when we are running.
~Rev. Scott Tayler 

When we are engaged in acts of love, we humans are at our best and most resilient. The love in romance that makes us want to be better people, the love of children that makes us change our whole lives to meet their needs, the love of family that makes us drop everything to take care of them, the love of community that makes us work tirelessly with broken hearts… If love were the central practice of a new generation of organizers and spiritual leaders, it would have a massive impact… If the goal was to increase the love, rather than winning or dominating a constant opponent, I think we could actually imagine liberation from constant oppression. We would suddenly be seeing everything we do, everyone we meet, not through the tactical eyes of war, but through eyes of love. We would see that there’s no such thing as a blank canvas, an empty land or a new idea — but everywhere there is complex, ancient, fertile ground full of potential… We would understand that the strength of our movement is in the strength of our relationships, which could only be measured by their depth. 
~Adrienne Maree Brown

Loneliness does not come from having no people around, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible. 
~Carl Jung

She is a friend of mind. She gather me man. The pieces I am, she gather them and give them back to me in all the right order.
~Toni Morrison 

Friends are those who treat you kindly behind your back.
~Unknown 

Real family does not come from your blood. It is the people standing beside you when no one else is. 
~Nishan Panwar 

Empathy isn’t just something that happens to us—a meteor shower of synapses firing across the brain— it’s also a choice we make: to pay attention, to extend ourselves. It’s made of exertion, that dowdier cousin of impulse. Sometimes we care for another because we know we should or because it’s asked for, but this doesn’t make our caring hollow. The act of choosing simply means we’ve committed ourselves to a set of behaviors greater than the sum of our individual inclinations. This confession of effort chafes against the notion that empathy should always rise unbidden, that genuine means the same thing as unwilled, that intentionality is the enemy of love. But I believe in intention and I believe in work. 
~Leslie Jamison 

(Curated and adapted for KUF from the 2021 Soul Matters materials for the theme ‘Cultivating Relationships’ by Rev. Beckett Coppola.)