Cat: Where are you going?
Alice: Which way should I go?
Cat: That depends on where you are going.
Alice: I don’t know.
Cat: Then it doesn’t matter which way you go.
~Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland
Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.
~Viktor E. Frankl
In any given moment we have two options, to step forward in growth or to step back into safety.
Intentional living is the art of making our own choices before others’ choices make us.
I always wanted to be somebody, but now I realize I should have been more specific.
Those who follow the crowd usually get lost in it.
Any dead fish can go with the flow — you have to be intentionally alive to swim against the current.
I had at least begun to guess that my greatest need might be to let go and be free from the drive after achievement — if only I dared. I had also guessed that perhaps when I had let these go, then I might be free to become aware of some other purpose that was more fundamental, not self-imposed private ambitions but something which grew out of the essence of one’s own nature. People said: ‘Oh, be yourself at all costs.’ But I had found that it was not so easy to know just what one’s self was. It was far easier to want what other people seemed to want and then imagine that the choice was one’s own.
~Marion Milner, quoted in A Life of One’s Own
(Curated and adapted for KUF from the 2022 Soul Matters materials for the theme ‘Living with Intention’ by Rev. Beckett Coppola.)