Pondering Questions

Don’t treat the following questions like “homework”, or try to answer every single one. Instead, make time to meditate on the list and then pick the one question that speaks to you right now. The goal is to figure out which question is yours, or which question contains a piece of your work. It may even be helpful to read the list to a friend or loved one and ask them which question they intuit is the one with which you need to wrestle. 

  • What was the most nourishing new relationship you cultivated during the pandemic time? Was it with an unexpected person? A new habit? A new part of yourself? And what’s your plan to intentionally nourish that relationship moving forward?
  • What’s the wisest thing you were ever taught about cultivating relationships?
  • When was the first time you deeply connected to someone in a way that caused you to also deeply connect with yourself?
  • When did you first realize there was something called “a chosen family”?
  • Which of your friend relationships have lasted the longest? Or gone the deepest? What’s been the secret? And, most importantly, is that a secret you need to pull out and use again in your current life?
  • Is it time to stop cultivating a relationship and instead walk away from it?
  • How are you being called to more intentionally cultivate a relationship with a loved one who has died?
  • Do you ever feel that the push to cultivate relationships is overblown? Do you ever wish our culture (or those around you) had a greater appreciation of solitude? What is it about aloneness that others around you don’t understand?
  • Are you owed an apology, but afraid to ask for it?
  • What relationship in your life needs restoration? What connection have you ignored for too long?
  • How far are you willing to let empathy take you?
  • What “unnoticed” sacred relationship are we most in danger of severing? What unacknowledged tearing of threads scares you the most?
  • Have you ever encountered “God” or “Spirit” in between you and another person? Some say the holy is the electricity that surges between people. Has that ever rung true for you?

Your question may not be listed above—if the above questions don’t include what life is asking from you spend the month listening for it.

(Curated and adapted for KUF from the 2021 Soul Matters materials for the theme ‘Cultivating Relationships’ by Rev. Beckett Coppola.)