Don’t treat the following questions like “homework”, or try to answer every single one. Instead, make time to meditate on the list and then pick the one question that speaks to you right now. The goal is to figure out which question is yours, or which question contains a piece of your work. It may even be helpful to read the list to a friend or loved one and ask them which question they intuit is the one with which you need to wrestle.
Who helps you see the joy in front of you?
What were you first taught about “deserving joy”?
How has joy surprised you during the pandemic?
How has your definition of joy changed as you’ve grown older?
Are you mostly a creator of joy, receiver of joy, notice-er of joy, or spreader of joy?
Is it time to choose joy?
What needs removal from your life in order for joy to expand or return?
Are you too responsible to let joy in?
Have you mistaken pleasure for joy?
When was the last time you did something “useless”? Might joy be waiting for you there?
When was the last time you told someone dear to you that they delight you?
What if joy comes from joining our sorrows?
What work do you need to do in advance so you can enjoy those whom you connect with this holiday season?
What’s your question? Your question may not be listed above. As always, if the above questions don’t include what life is asking from you, spend the month listening to your days to find it.
(Curated and adapted for KUF from the 2021 Soul Matters materials for the theme ‘Opening to Joy’ by Rev. Beckett Coppola.)